Friday, March 7, 2008


I changed my profile picture on MySpace and, almost immediately, I had four complete strangers send me messages and/or ask to be my friend.

Three of them were women. My age. One told me I was cute. *BAWL*

I have since changed my picture.

But let's talk about this for a minute, okay?

I'm not going to re-post the picture I had up, because I really don't want to focus on it any more, nor do I want anyone else to scrutinize it. But it was not what I would call a particularly "cute" picture of me. In fact, I looked girthy and mannish with a large chin, if I may say so myself.

I just thought it was a well-taken photograph. And it was recent.

Since the inception of my MySpace profile, I have sporadically had complete strangers ask to be my friend (presumably, based solely on my profile picture/information-- such motivation I will never understand).

It doesn't bother me when the strangers are men. I don't add them as friends, I don't reply to their messages, and I always wonder WHY they add me ("You're a 45 year old married man in Georgia. Really? ....really?"). But I chalk that all up to that ever-present (low) percentage of the male population who doesn't seem to have a problem with putting it all out there and flirting down a dead-end street. Similar to the goob on the street who says "sup-hows-it-goin" and keeps walking. Those dudes are always out there. That's fine. Whatever.

But it DOES bother me to get questionable attention from strange females. I like to think of myself as an open-minded person, but shoot. I have limits. All I could think when I got the friend requests was, "Do I really look like a dyke in this picture or something!?"

Sorry everyone. I'm human. I have enough romantic relationship problems as a straight female that I would REALLY not like to be mistaken for a gay one. Call me insecure.

1 comment:

DaForeigner said...

Ich kann nichts da zu sagen. It is strange...which is why I have been hesitant to start a myspace. It is nice to keep in touch with some old high school friends and what not, but for me it has never caused anything but drama.

As far as the randomness. I'm sure I have sent out a random friend request to a girl in the general area of where I live. Never in a million years do I intend it to be anything of a serious manner, or even flirting. Just maybe their profile pic caught my eye, or something the wrote about themselves peaked my interest. As in a fellow German!

Take it easy,


(I'm sure you didn't look like a dyke)