Monday, October 20, 2008

i'm shocked. SHOCKED

Thus far into the game, I'd have to say internet dating is a lot like regular dating:
The ones you want to hear back from, you don't hear back from.
The others are in endless supply, and they're persistently interested.
Why did I think it would be any different?
On the plus side, my much-atrophied flirting muscle is getting a good workout. It's like a simulator for learning to navigate the bar scene. It comes so easily and naturally for some people, but others, like me, are constantly behind the social curve and thus in dire need of extra help. (um, it SAYS SO in my Briggs-Meyers personality profile, so it must be true)

Really! What's the natural flow of interactions in the world of the regular, well-adjusted folk?

(get ready to look inside the mind of, like, "my people" or whatever)

Where you have potential hangups at the rhombus-shaped action points, "reciprocate flirtation" and "decline advances." With online matchmaking, you can decline advances from the comfort of your own home, with the cozy blanket of anonymity to cover you. You're not rejecting a person. You're rejecting an internet profile. Rest easy, weary introvert.
The internet also makes it easy to respond with appropriate means of flirtation reciprocation. Where a regular nerd might strike out by making a terrible joke or a deer-in-headlights face (:: Andrea raises hand meekly ::), Match gives you the handy, tried-and-true options of winking back or sending an email.
And you go from there.
Not that you can ever really CURE the date-deficient with such simple means. You can lead a horse to water, after all...

1 comment:

plumpdumpling said...

As someone who has only met boyfriends via other friends, college classes, and the Internet, meeting people the normal, bar-related way FREAKS ME OUT. Basing whether I'll go out with someone or not based entirely on their looks and ten seconds of shouting over the DJ? Uh-huh. Of course, this also explains why several of my boyfriends have had great personalities but were totally unattractive to me.